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Welcome to Joy Moments where we spread moments of joy throughout the

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world just to create some joy ripples.

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I am Lacey here with my daughter Violet,

so who knows, which will get from her.

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with my co-host Sarah.

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Hi Sarah.

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Sara: Hi Lisa.

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I am more than nine months old, so, and

who knows what you'll get with me either.

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I am laughing because Violet's

getting a little, bouncy treatment

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right now, and it's making me smile.

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I've got some joy submissions

from my friend, Mr.

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Jim, who's come up a couple of times.

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He's got.

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Lacey: Gym fan of Jim.

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Sara: He, yes, I could do a whole

show just about the amazingness of Mr.

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Jim.

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he gave me seven, Well, so

here's what's really funny.

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he sent me this text as a standalone

and it says JM number one, JM

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number two, all the way down.

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And when I first looked at it,

I thought it was gym moment.

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It took me forever to realize it was joy.

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Moment

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Lacey: I mean, they are gym moments.

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Sara: Jim Joy.

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I know Jim is laughing listening to this

right now, so I'm gonna drip these out.

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I'm not gonna do them all

today, so, I'm gonna pick one.

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Lacey: Gym Joy moment number one.

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Sara: Gym Joy moment.

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It's actually number five

because this one spoke to me.

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'cause I am a huge thrifter.

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I bought a pair of expensive leather shoes

at the thrift store today for 12 bucks.

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Very stylish and comfortable.

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That feeling of getting an

awesome buy at a thrift store.

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A maze, amaze and Jim's.

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Jim's pretty on point with some fashion

options, so I'm excited to see Jim's

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new leather shoes from the thrift store.

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Lacey: I gotta be honest, I have

never been a thrift store person,

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but I think that needs to change.

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Sara: Would you like to hear

my background of thrifting?

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Lacey: Yes.

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Always.

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Sara: Okay.

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so growing up, the budget in the family

was that each kid was allotted $20 for

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clothing each month, Didn't go far.

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If you went to a department store, I

mean, even though it was the eighties,

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nineties, it still didn't go very far.

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So I realized if I wanted that money to

go farther, I could go to thrift stores.

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And so I just got into the habit as

a teenager of going and searching.

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And so it kind of became fun because

it's like the diamond in the rough.

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And so I just got.

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Very much into scoping out which

thrift stores are worth visiting

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it which ones are good to hit often

and which ones are good to hit.

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Just, you know, like have a higher

turnover or slower turnover.

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And so I got into that.

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And then I'm also, I always joke that

I'm half hippie, 'cause I try to be

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as environmentally conscious as I.

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Can be in my day.

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And so I also just love the reuse,

reuse, reduce, recycle aspect of it.

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Because in my mind you go and you see

this item and you're like, yeah, this

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person didn't wanna wear it anymore.

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But it's still got years

of life left in it.

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And so I also just really

enjoy that component.

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And third note is I feel like I'm

like a spokesperson for thrifting.

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Third note is, what I love

about it is when you go into the

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department stores, there's often a

very similar theme of everything.

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And so if you're not into whatever that

theme is, you're a little outta luck.

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And so when you go to a thrift store,

I think it's fun because you get

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to look at many different styles.

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And so it's just that,

that variety option.

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Lacey: I get that.

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because I've always been plus

size thrift stores are not,

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very friendly to that size.

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So that's part of, where my hesitation

has always come from because I don't

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think that's a good way to spend my

energy, that resource bucket, if you will.

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Sara: I heard.

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Yeah.

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that absolutely makes sense.

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And it's not for everyone.

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I mean, what's cool now is

there's a ton of thrifting online.

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There's a lot of, different things, but

I'm not a spokesperson for thrifting.

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That was just my little side piece.

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Joy moment.

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do you have one to share?

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Lacey?

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Lacey: So Violet is teething.

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Okay.

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And one of my favorite things.

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About.

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let me just I, 'cause I just

think it all, all the time.

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So I need to say what a gift she

is for our family in so many ways.

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She was not planned for, but

goodness gracious, is she just

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adding so much to our family.

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And one of my favorite things is seeing

the older two interact with her and Isaac

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has lost what seems like a billion teeth.

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he has no front teeth.

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Top or bottom, they just

all like fell out at one.

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so he has one of his bottom teeth coming

in and at Violet yesterday and was

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like, you have a front tooth coming in.

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And he was like talking

to her in a baby voice.

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And it was just so under because it

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Sara: That re

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Lacey: the same front tooth on the bottom.

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Sara: that reminds me of a cute story.

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So one of my nieces lives very far

away and due to COVID in the distance.

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We'd only ever communicated via FaceTime

as she grew up from a little bambino.

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the first time we actually saw her in

person and she's in love with my son.

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the first time we saw her she was

three or four, I can't remember.

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And she ran up to him and she

looks down, not at a space.

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She looks down and then she looks

up and she goes, you have feet.

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I have feet.

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She realized she didn't think he had feet

I I say that often and outta context, and

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it makes me happy every time I say it.

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You have beat.

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as I mentioned last time,

I am back into threads.

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I have figured out how to be on there

in a way that feels good and not crappy.

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and I've been asking a lot of

fun prompts and I love responses.

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And so I asked recently, what is the

best compliment you have ever received?

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The one that still lights you up every

time you think of it, and these responses.

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So what an amazing joy Ripple.

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There's this one dude who I call

him like the dad of Threads.

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He's just the sweetest, kindest,

like dad joke type of guy.

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His name is Rex Racer Graham.

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Lacey: Oh, he and I are,

I also am a fan of his.

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Gotcha.

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Sara: Oh my gosh.

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Isn't he like the dad?

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Okay.

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So he said, somebody once said

to him, in whatever way it may be

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possible, you may have saved a soul.

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I was like, oh.

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I mean, I feel like life

complete, like you've, you,

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like everything else is gravy.

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After that, this other gal, Jana

King Kay, a friend texted me,

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quote, you are a lovable dork.

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And I said, oh my gosh, I want, I

want a t-shirt that says that because

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I love that term, a lovable dork.

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It's so sweet.

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And then there's this lady,

this, she's a grandmother.

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wary Earthling too.

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You know what's funny is I

never say these names out loud,

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so it's actually really funny.

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She said, her great niece, oh,

sorry, not a grandmother, great

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niece, who is six years old, said

to her friend when introducing

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her, she said she's really kind.

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Which for a 6-year-old to say

that unprompted is, I mean, that's

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like the best thing to hear.

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Lacey: I

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Sara: yeah.

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Lacey: that's really cool.

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Sara: And then I'm gonna do

one more by Cookie Zen milk.

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Love that name.

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Somebody said to this person, you always

step up when you see things that need

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doing and you're always cheerful and kind.

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Those are precious gifts that you share

with everyone, even those who have a

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tendency towards being a pain in the ass.

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Lacey: It does.

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I mentioned this in the last episode,

one of my favorite compliments.

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Can I share my other favorite one?

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'cause it's more recent.

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Sara: of course.

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Lacey: I was talking about how I look.

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And that I have a good faith, like my face

is put together in a way that is pleasant.

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And I know that because people

talk to me no matter what.

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Like if someone needs directions in a

one mile radius, they will find me and

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they'll ask me because I have resting

nice face and seems safe because of

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the way my features are put together.

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anyway.

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I said something about this and this

person responded and it's the fact of

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how matter of fact, they were about it.

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Like I wasn't sure if it was a compliment.

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That's how matter of fact it was

of like, well, yeah, I mean, yeah,

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the way your face is put together.

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Renaissance painters, what a

renaissance master painters

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that have lined up to paint you.

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And I was like, just.

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Lined, I think is the

word clamoring was used.

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Like we clamoring a figure and I'm

just like it was said in such a

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factual way not to make me feel good.

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And it was just like, this is one of

the best compliments I've ever gotten.

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Which I actually am not a big fan

of compliments on looks 'cause I

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like to think that there are way

more interesting things about me.

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if it's that renaissance master

painter is a flavoring to paint me,

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that's a good, that's a good one.

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Sara: Power of compliments.

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I was one time in a job interview and.

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It was, I can still, I can still picture

it vividly sitting at this big table.

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I think it was my second round

interview and there was somebody else

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in there, assisting with the interview.

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And then all of a sudden the woman who I

did end up working for, she just stopped

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and looked at me and she just said,

there is something about your smile all.

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Lacey: The good,

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Sara: Yeah.

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No, no.

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Like she was, she was, it was

funny the look on her face.

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She was happy and mystified.

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There's just something about your

smile and, I've been told throughout

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my life a lot of stuff about my smile,

but I just thought it was funny 'cause

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it was like we were being all formal

and proper and then all of a sudden,

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just halfway through, she just, and

so I've always remembered that moment.

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Lacey: Oh,

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Sara: this is the power of a compliment.

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Lacey: Absolutely.

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Sara: It takes nothing to

give someone a compliment.

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Think of that as your drop

of joy into the universe.

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That may come back to you.

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I love random compliments.

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Like, Ooh, you wear that shirt so well.

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Or like, oh my gosh, you

are bringing it today.

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Lacey: That's

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Sara: love your energy,

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Lacey: love.

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Sara: oh, I'm so glad you were here.

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it made coming to this all worth it.

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You know what I mean?

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It's like that little

handwritten note, right?

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So if you don't have pen and paper to

write that to somebody, just giving

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somebody a few words, joy Ripples.

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Joy ripples.

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Lacey: have like a little

tangible, this is what you can

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do to create a joy ripple today.

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given a compliment.

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Sara: Well, I see part of what we do,

not only with this podcast but with our

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company, what our movement is helping

people learn and understand if you

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didn't grow up in a household with.

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F Joy or practice of gratitude

or if you didn't grow up

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receiving compliments, right?

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Like it's never too late to learn.

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If so, somebody on thread said to

me, she asked something about Joy and

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I wrote back a comment about, oh, I

feel pretty strong in my joy game.

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But she wrote back and said, that's my

new goal is to have a strong joy game.

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And I'm like, yeah, we don't all have it.

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It's a practice.

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It's a muscle.

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It's something we have to do.

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So if we can help people work on that joy

muscle, and if they call it compliment,

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gratitude, whatever, we're here for it.

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Lacey: So Sarah, We have tools,

right, for taking a step.

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Maybe these are tools for finding

joy or spreading joy, and I'm

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gonna put 'em on our tool.

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Sara: Yes.

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So instead of thinking of joy as passive,

that it has to come to you all the time.

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There can be an active

and a passive, right?

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I think passive is noticing and

active is putting it out there.

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Lacey: Okay,

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Sara: I'm so fired up.

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Lacey: is fired up, So we've

gotta wrap this up so that she's

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Sara: I,

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Lacey: and

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Sara: when you said fired

up and not in a good way.

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I was like, oh, you're

sitting with a loaded diaper.

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Lacey: really

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Sara: I.

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Lacey: thank you for joining

us here on Joy Moments.

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Remember, you can always submit your

own joy moment@joyfulsupportmovement.com

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slash submit.

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There you can also submit questions for

No Shame in R Game and that kind of stuff,

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thanks for sharing some joy with me today

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Thank you.

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Sara: Thank you, Lacey.

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And also another call to

action if anyone's interesting

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in sponsoring Joy, right?

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We are passionate about putting more

joy in the world, and you can sponsor.

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Joy Ripples go to joyful

support movement.com

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where I think it's at the bottom right.

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Sponsor Joy.

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Sponsor Joy, we appreciate you and

all you're doing in showing up in

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the world, and thank you Lacey, and

thank you Violet for joining us.

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Lacey: Thank you, Sarah.